Engaging men always has been and always will be critical – we live in a world made up of men and women and cannot make it a better place for anyone, unless we tackle the relationship between the two. For me there is a need for women to share their experiences as women, to enjoy that ‘female’ space and to take up issues on behalf of women, just as there is a need for other categories of society to group together to celebrate their common identity, experience and cause. Ideally we pick up several banners when we engage in feminist activism, so we are aware of the multiple discriminations of gender, colour, religion, disability, poverty, etc and can highlight compounding problems. Both women and men have multi-layered identities and they need to engage with each other both because of their other common layers, but also because, fundamentally, feminism asks both men and women to change their attitudes. The feminist movement strengthens women’s sense of common identity and purpose, but we need to do this in ways that encourages men to work with us to build this better, more supportive, decent and richer world, and not to oppose change, or worse still turn back the clock and try and take us all back to a more repressive and oppressive world.